Do you have a hard time forgiving others? Or does it come easy to you?
Note: forgiving someone does not mean that you turn a blind eye to the situation. And it does not mean you ignore actions. If someone held up a store, the shop owner could forgive them and at the same time try to get a court to order the robber replace what was taken/damaged. And if someone is an abuser, their victims could forgive them and at the same time get a restraining order.
A while ago I had someone ask me if it had been hard to forgive a person in my life who had done some serious things. Repeatedly. My answer was no.
Why? Lots of people have a hard time forgiving others. Especially when they've done something serious. So why was it easy for me to forgive?
Because of a couple of reasons 1) I wanted to forgive. I knew that it would help me heal personally, and I knew that I should forgive. So, I wanted to.
2) I felt bad for this person that made these mistakes. Sure, it was their choice and it was their decision. But I felt bad for all the pain he was causing himself.
3) Grudges aren't worth my time.
Last Friday I had an article come out on KSL.com, titled: 5 ways to begin to forgive your spouse. I interviewed Lois Haroldsen from loisharoldsen.com and LifeStar and she had some great things to say.
Go check it out for help in forgiving.
Click here or follow this link: http://www.ksl.com/?sid=41408880&nid=1009&title=5-ways-to-begin-to-forgive-your-spouse