Like the recent story of the boy who had been missing for 13 years! Fox News
How horrifying to realize that your whole life was something different than you thought it was.
Honestly, though, to some extent we all deal with crappy foundations. Co-workers, family members, friends, spouses. You will always run into people who are not truthful or whose feelings are only skin deep.
I have a situation I am in that is extremely frustrating. A foundation made of poop, to be sure. I am in the unfortunate position to witness the brunt of this person's lies, actions, and misleadings, I know their history, and this person attacks me constantly with put-downs, swearing, and all sorts of other things. Then they turn around and ask me to trust them.
And there I am, standing on the metaphorical packed down poop.
But, look at that picture above! That nest isn't just magically going anywhere. It needs to be scraped down, sanitized, probably repainted and then guarded to keep the pigeons that will keep coming back away.
This ledge can become clean. It can be completely transformed. But it has a history with pigeons that, if the bird watching website I read can be trusted, will continue to come back to the place they were born to nest. The ledge can become clean, but it will always need to be guarded.
People are the same way. Habits, especially addictions, have to be guarded against always. It is a full time job for the rest of that persons life.
I pray all the time that (not in these words) the person I know will try to scrape the crap away and do their best to not let the birds take nest.