tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645967848508437378.post3997861155926046700..comments2019-08-20T10:37:41.138-07:00Comments on Get to the Gist: These girls just don't get itUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645967848508437378.post-87952846310531212722015-08-25T21:44:31.461-07:002015-08-25T21:44:31.461-07:00I'm so sorry for the push-back you've gott...I'm so sorry for the push-back you've gotten on this. Everyone wants to pawn their responsibility and accountability off on someone else. Of course the boy who rapes a girl is completely responsible for his actions. But the girl who poses in risque pictures for the camera is responsible for her own actions as well. <br /><br />And, frankly, immodesty is a part of the problem. Most women who wear plunging necklines, see through shirts and underwear-shorts do it because they want to get a particular reaction out of the men. Well, if you are going around trying to get a reaction out of someone you will most likely get it. But then so many of these women show anger at the men and tell them to keep their thoughts to themselves.<br /><br />They can't have it both ways. Are they wanting the reaction or are they not?<br /><br />And yes, Gah!Jenelle Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11763514231466876648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645967848508437378.post-77404660474865328122015-08-25T18:46:12.680-07:002015-08-25T18:46:12.680-07:00Thanks for "getting it", Jenelle. I had ...Thanks for "getting it", Jenelle. I had a lot of push-back from moms of girls on this one ... mainly that girls aren't responsible for what boys THINK when they look at them. <br /><br />The whole "a woman doesn't ask to be raped when she dresses sexy and to blame her is to excuse the immoral behavior of the rapist" argument. And I'm ... conflicted. I'm not naive, either--I HAVE been raped--but I also think we ALL have responsibility. If I'm drinking, at a party, coming on to whomever, and I'm raped, I DO think I bare some of the responsibility. If my daughter posts pics of herself pushing up her boobs and kissing into the camera--and the boy who takes her out on a date thinks those boobs are fair game and reaches for them ... I DO think she basically invited him to do it. <br /><br />On the flip side, I'm doing all I can to teach my teenage sons that women are more than what's on the outside ... but man, it's hard when practically every single girl they know is on Instagram celebrating everything she is on the outside.<br /><br />Gah. This is so hard!Ali Crosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15907289209780628314noreply@blogger.com